In the beginning of all relationships one does not think, "I can't wait for this relationship to end," but in fact most of the relationships we have end. Some end great! Some end in tears! Some relationships just end and there is no explanation nor feeling. Some relationships end too quick, while others go on for way too long. Other relationships have a small purpose while others have monumental impact. I read this card one time that really helped my eyes open up to the beginning and ending of relationships. This card shared three types of relationships; ones for a moment, ones for a season and ones for a lifetime. I believe that in each of these types of relationships there will be ones that are healthy and ones that are unhealthy.
When someone has a relationship with someone this could and usually does alter ones life forever. We usually don't get to choose betwixt them... they just happen and then we know what type of relationship that was. Let me share with you a couple examples so that you understand what I mean.
Example 1: I ran into this guy at Starbucks one day in the mid months of 2004 and we hit it off. We talked about God, work, life, spirituality, dreams and so many other things. We got together a couple times after that first meeting and he even invited me into his home for a meal. I thought that this relationship was going to be one for that season in my life, but shortly after our meal together we stopped communicating. Nothing negative happened, there weren't any fall outs, we just stopped contacting each other on a daily basis and the relationship was new enough that it just fizzled out. I have no ill feelings toward him, nor does he have any reason to be upset at me... it just ended. But here is the clintcher... because of this relationship I realized quickly my depsarate need for an accountablity partner.
Example 2: I met Melissa Cochran in an odd yet very supernatural way (so we thought) and we ended up jumping into marriage very quickly. One would say that when someone knows they know, but I think my Baptist Union Director was correct when he said, "time is on your side." Anway, this seemed to be a relationship that was for a lifetime and it will be, but it will be under new circumstances. She is the mother of my child and we will need to keep a close, friendly relationship for the sake of our child. Our relationship ended, but a new one began.
I know I could go on and on about this, but I am sure you get the point... so when you meet people (which we do daily), simply think about having the best possible relationship one can with this person and when/if it ends, just thank God for it and reflect on the pros and cons and spit out the seeds and move on.
1 comment:
well i think that that was very well put together. i have always believed there are friends for a rease, a season, and a lifetime.. sadly it is true. i am sorry taht you ahve to deal with this. i hope taht you have been able to have some one to talk to! i miss you and missy and have yet to see the little girl:( but hopefully we will get to see you soon! and keep you head up, atleast you learned from the xperience!!
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